Are you having a great day or are you having a miserable day?
In actual fact the day is neither great nor miserable by itself. We feel that the day is a great day or we feel that the day is a miserable day. It is all in our feelings about the day that make it a great day or a miserable day. Now that we know that it is our feelings that make a day great or miserable, then why do we choose to have a miserable day instead of a great day?
The answer lies in the situation and the state of mind that we are in at the moment. Suppose you have just been retrenched from your job due to the poor economic situation and your company needed to downsize. You will be worrying about finding a new job. That is how you will be feeling.
When you start to worry and fret, you will feel very miserable and you feel afraid and unsure about the future. Many questions run through your mind and when you do not have the answers to them, you will feel lost and sad. It generally true that human beings are prone to thinking negatively rather than positively. It is very common for us to consider problem solving. We seldom consider resource finding! We will always look at the negative aspect rather than seeking the positive part of life.
When a person considers the negative aspects of life he will not feel resourceful, creative, imaginative and capable. He feels that he is locked up in a cell or room with walls that limit his abilities. He cannot come up with answers and all the while endless questions are asked in his mind. If he keeps at it in this situation he will soon feel helpless, lethargic, sluggish, weary and lifeless.
If we pause here for a minute and consider the situation, we can identify that all this happens because of how we feel! It is only the feelings. It is all in our thoughts. Right?
If we feel bad and miserable, it is because we look at the situation with negative thoughts. We feel downcast, depressed, sad and unhappy because we think negatively!
The situation that we are in cannot change if we feel worry and sad. The situation can only change for the better if we decide to change ourselves. Instead of looking at the situation with fear and anxiety we should look at it with hope, confidence, positive expectations and anticipation.
In a positive mood and feelings that we create in ourselves by thinking positive thoughts and feelings, we will start to feel good about ourselves. We will become resourceful and creative. The situation does not look so bleak after all. In actual fact the situation is still the same and unchanged. It is we who have changed. We have change for the better.
The possibilities for a better future seem to be within reach and are brighter. The day seems to change from being a miserable day to become a great day. By thinking positive thoughts and being positive we have regain control over the events in our life. Isn’t this better than being miserable? So, instead of having a miserable day, have a great day!
I will end this with a quotation from Winston Churchill and a poem by English poet William Ernest Henley (1849–1903). At the age of 12, Henley contracted tuberculosis of the bone and he had his leg amputated below the knee at age 17. Despite his disability he lived an active life and died at age 53. (Source; Wikipedia)
“Sure I am this day we are masters of our fate, that the task which has been set before us is not above our strength; that its pangs and toils are not beyond our endurance. As long as we have faith in our own cause and an unconquerable will to win, victory will not be denied us.”
― Winston Churchill, The Crisis
Invictus [Latin for “unconquered”]
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
– William Ernest Henley –